Invitation by obligation

42 days to go

Ok, I know this post may offend some but let me just start off by saying it is no way geared towards anyone who would read this blog. Now that all my invites have gone out and most of our RSVPs have come back with an answer I can get to plan my seating plan. However, there are still some outstanding RSVPs out there who let me be honest with you, I could care less if they come, actually, and I’m hoping they don’t. This brings me to my topic. Why do we invite people out of obligation? Now I understand when you are obligated to invite family. Like your aunt from overseas who your parents made you invite or your second cousin whom you have not seen since you played together when you were 4 years old. Family I understand you can’t fight blood, but friends (or not so good friends) I don’t see the point.

Maybe I’m cold, heartless, selfish, whatever. I just don’t see why you would invite people you were once close to out of obligation. I mean if they really wanted to be part of your life and you them, you would have made the effort to stay close. And well if there was a falling out then call it what it is and move on. I mean I have a handful of great friends, if they couldn’t make it to the wedding I’d understand; I did not invite them out of obligation. However, there are some (who have yet to RSVP) that I secretly wish don’t come; heck I didn’t even want to waste an invitation. But Prince Charming (who is also my voice of reason, and apparently a much nicer person then I) said we had to. It was the right thing to do.

The more I think about this situation, the more I don’t want them at my wedding. Really if they did attend it wouldn’t ruin our day or anything. However, I know that they wouldn’t really want to be there either. It’s one of those tip toe around the big pink elephant in the room what nobody wants to be the first one to talk about. I say end it. Don’t dance around the situation just end it. But I guess we live in a society where we have to try and be as socially correct as possible. Aside from that it’s goon manners. But really we all think it. Why can’t we just stop doing things we are obligated to do, especially when it doesn’t benefit anyone in the end. If they do come they wouldn’t want to really be there and we really wouldn’t want them to come. Look every one Big Pink Elephant in the room! But I guess that’s why I have prince Charming, he keeps the peace…if I were left to my own devices there would be chaos.