Come dance with me?

40 days to go

Just a little over one month to go before the wedding and we are now sending invitations out to our friends to come join us after the ceremony and the family dinner, these are not close friends but co workers and teammates from sports teams. We are not super close but hang out often. We are calling them our “drinks invites” because they are invited to come for drinks, some food and lots of dancing after all the formal stuff ends. Now I know some of you are a bit shocked that Prince Charming and I would do this, but we never saw anything wrong with it, we thought it was a great idea. Since deciding this I have heard some peoples input (none who are guests) say why would you do that? Don’t you think that’s rude? My reply, why wouldn’t I and no I don’t think it’s rude.

Some arguments I’ve heard against this are as follows; It makes people feel like they were not important enough to be invited to your whole wedding, or it seems more like a gift grab. I was surprised that people would feel this way….all I can say is, man, people are way too sensitive about silly things.

This is my response to those who are silently judging me and disapprove of this. Our venue only holds 75 people seated. I’m sorry I loved my venue and it suited us perfectly so I wasn’t gonna pass it up. But after all the older people are gone (older Asians tend to leave after dinner) we invited some friends, none of which are from out of town, to come join us for drinks and dancing and really celebrate with us. We have specified no gifts and they didn’t even have to dress up. Just want them there to have fun. Really what is wrong with that? We wouldn’t have too much fun if we just had family there for dinner and dancing. First of all, Asians don’t dance a heck of a lot, and second, I’m not close with my family. This is all more formality then anything. I have never felt comfortable to let loose inform of my family, let alone Prince Charming’s. So to have our friends come in after and really celebrate with us…why not? If we didn’t do this we would have probably hosted a party after for these friends ( I repeat none close, all from work and from teams we play sports in) so why not tack it on to the night where we are already paying for a venue and a bar and I can have good food provided with a DJ?

As for the argument of people feeling like they were not important enough…well, really if I’m not too close to you why would you want to sit there and listen to my aunt or uncle talk about my childhood and how happy they are…blah blah blah? I’ve been to so many weddings where I’ve endured speech after speech about the bride and groom who I had only known for a little while. In that case to be honest I felt like it was a gift grab since I was not close to either the bride or groom.

Prince charming and I just wanted to throw a big party fro our friends, and this was our way to do it.

Despite some peoples opinions about how we are organizing our wedding and who we are inviting to what part, I’m sure the friends who do attend will see what we want to do and understand this is really more our style. We are very social people but at the same time very private. For those who get offended and don’t come…more drinks for others, they will miss a great party, because obviously, they don’t really know us at all…and who wants that at your wedding?