It's Black and White

162 days to go.

I am so happy to see Vera Wang is bring back black. I love the modern contrast and I think it looks so cool and contemporary. I bring up Wang and her Fall 2010 collection for a reason. This top designer has reassured me that Prince Charming and I have made good choices for our wedding that suit us and represent the people we are, or like to think we are. Why do I bring this up you ask? Well...

...So I had a mild melt down a few weeks ago; and still I feel aggravated just thinking about it to be honest with you. Now I know my family has their own opinions of what is wedding appropriate and what is "nice", but really, at the end of the day Prince Charming and I are the ones getting married (and flipping the bill I might add) and we are in no means an old fashioned Asian couple, so what's the problem.

I understand that if my parents had their way I would have a "Chinese Gong Show" of a wedding. The Cheng Sham (the dresses you see the hostesses wear at the Chinese restaurant) the tea ceremony, the red and gold decor with a giant double happiness symbol and of course the 8+ course wedding reception with a bunch of people I don't know. Don't get me wrong, I've been to many Asian weddings that were beautiful and well done, but I had told them early on...there will be none of that here. Just a small wedding in Ottawa. Friends and close family, if they had a special request I would appease them but it was a speak now or forever hold your peace sort of thing. And so they did, hold their peace....well up until 6 months to go; after all the decor, flowers and invites had been bought and paid for.

The dispute? something so silly; our choice of colours. I had purchased black table runners to go with our Black, White and blue colour scheme. All of the sudden my parents decided they had to chime in. "It's like a funeral" they said "the colours are unlucky, can't you have burgundy runners instead?". First of all it's a wedding,, our wedding, and if my guests think if a funeral well, they are at the wrong party. Second, luck does not come in a form of a colour and luck is not a marriage make. Third, burgundy has nothing to do with my wedding. So on and on did this go on... till I couldn't take it anymore and put my foot down. Well, sort of. Black table runners are out; Black, white and blue colour scheme is in. Nothing further will be done to appease the old school Asians and their superstitions and no further details of the wedding decor or style will be divulged to family to limit any more headaches for Prince Charming and myself.

At the end of the day we want our wedding our way. In 15 years my guest will not look back and say "I can't believe they used black in their colours. Hopefully they will look back and say that was one of the best times I had at a wedding". Did I fail to mention Vera Wang is Asian ...Mom?...Dad?